From JLO's blog: "A friend told me this morning that it's never simply a matter of severing all ties to maintain your integrity. Rather, you have to make your peace by compromising, by swallowing your pride and living with unpleasantness."
I certainly don't agree with that statement. To maintain integrity, one should not have to sever ties, true. Swallowing pride, though? And living with unpleasantness? Why should anyone have to submit to those things? One thing I take from my mormon experience is the concept of Individual Worth. I probably don't take it in the way the mormons intend, but still, the idea of placing value upon oneself is a very important lesson.
If JLO, or anyone else, compromises (in this case, integrity), swallows pride, and lives with unpleasantness, what are the compromises his family is making? What is the pride his family is swallowing? What unpleasantness is his family living with? What integrity and self-worth are they giving up? If JLO has to do those things (to maintain peace?) then all the others should have to also. It's unbalanced to make the problems and solutions in a situation fall upon only one individual.
One must absolutely live a life of integrity. If their family doesn't accept them, the problem therein lies with the family, not the individual. If the person is being true to theirself and their beliefs, only THEN can pride be swallowed and unpleasantness lived with. You can't ask someone to live a less-than-honest life and also to shut their mouths and accept it. My integrity comes first. Then we can compromise.